A friend of mine in Chicago recently started divorce proceedings and it’s turned into a rather enlightening process. What at first was a nightmare has actually turned into a rather manageable process for him. Of course there are plenty of rough spots, particularly with emotions and the changes in lifestyle, but he’s seemed to be pulling through it ok.
Getting the Right Information
One thing that’s really helped him is having a very DIY approach to it. Just like most things in our lives, divorce can be done largely ourselves. The first step toward this is, as always research. He shared a site with me and I’m going to share with you now. It’s called getdivorceinfo and it’s a been a great resource for him. The site isn’t run by an attorney or a legal office, instead it’s really just a collection of information by a guy who went through a divorce himself and learned a lot from it.
One of the best sections my friend and I have found is the page on family law attorneys. There is a ton of info on how hiring one to do specific parts of a divorce is really a smart choice. It’s fairly easy to file papers yourself with the county and you can even serve papers yourself to your spouse. But one thing that doesn’t fall under DIY is sorting out family legal matters. This is particularly true of matters like custody rights and income distribution aka alimony. The fact of the matter is, at some point in your divorce you’re going to need an attorney to sort things out in an unbiased way and also in a way that follows the law. This last bit is really important. You need to make sure things are filed and done correctly to avoid any future headaches and surprises.
So, if you’re going through a divorce, just remember that marriage is a legal status in the eyes of the state and the law. Therefore, you need to handle it as a legal matter. Be smart, do your research and do as much of it on your own as you can, but also call in a pro at the right time.